Are women sex object? Why not let the market decide. How much money a prostitute make? How much money she would have made if she insisted on being a programmer and compete with males without help from affirmative action. Profit maximization principles means you are, or will become, what the market value you most for, quite obviously.
Believe it or not, I actually value others more as persons that most people. It’s just that I do it out of choice if I care about others. I have no obligation to care about others beyond what I need to provide them so they give me what I WANT.