If you have a daughter, don’t you want your daughter to end up with the best of the best? Millionaires, billionaires or someone with high IQ? If you have a son, do you want your son to end up like Beatty Chadwick? Do you want your son to get married at all? What do you want for your sons or daughter anyway. I want to know my self.
How the relation works out is secondary. It could be casual sex. It could be sugar babies. It could be formal marriage. It could be religious marriage. He could be her boss (as long as it’s the actual owner rather than just supervisor). Who care?
There are two distinct forms of idealism, both of which I consider to be practical and useful. The first is almost a psychological position. I am an anarchist, but I never expect to see a perfectly voluntary society — that is, one without crime and violence — just as I never expect to be in perfect health. Yet I advocate society by contract just as I take vitamins every day, because I want to get as close as possible to both ideals. In short, the only way I can approximate this ideal is to hold it firmly in front of me as a standard against which to measure the world. In this sense, an ideal is like true North on a compass, and it serves a valuable function whether or not true North (the ideal) can be reached. This is the form of ideal embodied in the wording “things as they…should be.”
Various arrangements which are described as ‘sugar daddies’ and ‘prostitution’, and more besides (such as polygamy) are prohibited arbitrarily, classified as ‘not marriage’ (as though the State has any business classifying what contract counts as what); and they actually reflect some adaptation to the circumstances of the people involved. Maybe sugar-daddies and prostitutes would not be as popular under a regime of laissez-faire; but whether or not this is the case it is obviously a preferred situation for many people in the present. The war-on-sexual-contract is as pathetic and mindless as the war on drugs; and possibly just as damaging – more people just tend to take it for granted.