Why rich smart attractive males avoid marriage? Why religions teach you to get married? Why feminazis prevent consenting females from accepting high paying jobs and escaping patriarchal oppression? Why force and deceit are often more politically correct than consent in getting a mate? What should you do to help your self?
The price for peace is proper alignment between individuals’ interest and productivity. In other words, free market capitalism.
That means some people can be really successful fairly, squarely, and productively and the rest should just let those productive people be successful. Such price is just too high that few societies embrace capitalism. So we got war.